We can do this much, much better
In a classic “Seinfeld” scene, George has cold feet after getting engaged. He flies into a panic and asks the group how to get out of the wedding.
“You really want to get out of this thing?” asked Kramer. “I got two words for you: ‘pre . . . nup’.”
Elaine chimes in: “I wouldn’t sign one.”
Is there any other agreement whose mere mention threatens to tank the relationship that is the reason for the agreement in the first place? I can’t think of one.
But it' not the people or agreement, it's the process. The process turns lovers into adversaries, each armed with their own lawyer. Yikes.
The key to a kissing contract that strengthens rather than harms a relationship is in the process, one that puts the relationship at the center and lets the legal process support it.